Changing Perspectives=Emotion Control

Nipping your emotions in the bud requires a differentiated kind of medical advice that does not involve the use of any drug. Taking control of your emotions so as not to let them rule your behavior is one thing, but controlling them from the start before they could fully materialize is another. To succeed in the latter, what you need is a total change of perspective. Core ideas concerning life situations are at the heart of your emotions. Changing them automatically alters your perspective, helping you control how you're supposed to feel when confronted by particular circumstances. To get you started on this exercise, below are some common core beliefs that make you vulnerable to negative emotions:

The never ending pursuit of perfection.

Perfection is based on individual standards and perception. This explains why it is always variable, reliant on a per case and individual basis. Thus, striving hard to be perfect is futile. Why? With the varying standards of perfection prevailing in almost everything and anything, there is no way you can live up to each and every one of them. In the first place, measuring your success with these as basis sets you up for eventual and certain disaster: You leave yourself vulnerable to the inevitable frustration and upset that comes with trying hard to be perfect. At best, you should resolve to putting your best foot forward without having to conform to rigid standards of perfection.

Avoiding conflicts altogether.

Living a life free of conflicts is ideal. However, it is downright improbable. Where personal relationships are concerned; whether they be family, friends, or colleagues, life experiences and challenges could bring about a clash in personalities, hence giving rise to conflicts. Having conflicts does not always mean making enemies though. As such, our ability to handle relationships is sharpened by the way we resolve them. Surviving and learning to effectively manage conflicts works to develop us as a person.

Seeing people as one-dimensional figures.

People who oppose you and/or get on your nerves may not earn your friendship or personal approval. But this does not mean to say they are entirely bad. People are complex creatures that are multi-dimensional in terms of their behavior and overall psychological profile. When it comes to our individualized personalities, each of us always has a good side and bad side. Interacting with others given specific situations can bring out a particular side of us, which we may not consciously want to show. So at best, we should always give people the benefit of the doubt, for they could display differing facets of themselves, which is not always bad.

Having a dragon's temper.

Some of us could be so ill-tempered that we tend to put important aspects of our lives at stake all the time. Frustration, rejection, unfairness, and other adverse circumstances resulting to personal turmoil or conflicts are all latent temper igniters. Increasing your patience and endurance by learning proper anger management and prioritizing your rationality over your emotions would help you better control your temper.